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Be gentle with yourself, friends. You're learning

Be gentle with yourself, friends. You're learning something that may have never been modeled for you. 💗

What is one encouraging thing that you could say to yourself right now? Leave it in the comments because I bet another parent would benefit from hearing it, too. 🙂

Don't forget how much I appreciate you. 🙏

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Which one resonates most with you? Remember this:

Which one resonates most with you? Remember this: You are a GOOD parent and you might have had a childhood that wired you to parent in a way that doesn't align to your values. That does not make you BAD. It makes you a messy, beautiful, amazing human who is willing to own their mistakes and create a new template for your child to inherit.

Your reactions don't make you bad - they are making you curious and they are helping you to realize where you have childhood wounds that are in need of healing.

You are good. You are good. You are good. Please don't forget that. Please wire that truth into your heart so you can pass that on to your children.

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Raise your hand in the comments if you can relate

Raise your hand in the comments if you can relate to this! 👋

I hate feeling called out by my own posts 😆🙃, but this was me for years. So, please know I share this post with ZERO judgment. For the longest time, I always thought, okay, I want to be calm and conscious and confident for my child - but then I would engage in so many things that would leave me feeling the *opposite* of those things. So, I had to confront the areas of my own life where I could make improvements and be more intentional about engaging in activities that were regulating for my nervous system.

All the things I listed in this video completely leave me feeling frazzled, impatient, and irritable. So, I’ve had to make major lifestyle adjustments during my parenting journey so I could show up as the mom and partner I aspire to be.

Things I do that are calming to my nervous system these days include:

❤️ getting 10-15 min of sunlight first thing in the morning (or whenever the sun rises because most mornings I’m up when it’s still dark out)

❤️ contrast showers

❤️ meditation (this one I still kind of suck at - I struggle with consistency on this one, but I know with my recent ADHD diagnosis I need to recommit to making this a regular habit)

❤️exercise - can’t live without it - doesn’t have to be exhausting, just daily movement of my body in ways I enjoy getting outside (even tho I hate being cold)

What do you do to regulate your nervous system? What things have you eliminated over the years on your parenting journey?

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Your daily reminder from one of your fans (das me)

Your daily reminder from one of your fans (das me) ❤️.

You matter.
Your work matters.
Your healing matters.
I’m cheering you on every step of the way and I see how hard and beautiful and messy this work is for you. And you’re doing it. And you’re absolutely changing the world.

Tag a friend (yes you can tag yourself! ❤️) in the comments who is breaking cycles with you!

Don’t forget to check out my cycle-breaking resources at the link in my bio. The Connected Kid Collection is designed to give you the scripts, the activities, and the resources you deserve to chart a new and empowering path for your children and yourself. Link in bio or go directly to GetCKC.com

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Practicing this every day. 💗 How do you soothe

Practicing this every day. 💗

How do you soothe yourself so you can better soothe your child?

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If you're anything like me, sometimes you're tempt

If you're anything like me, sometimes you're tempted to dwell on what you're getting "wrong" in parenting more than what you're getting right. But this morning, I want to remind you of all the ways you're crushing it and modeling what it looks like to raise kids who get to see an Emotionally Mature Parent every single day. I cannot stress this enough - we are all making mistakes - but please see the second slide where we apologize to our kids - that is maturity and that is an amazing thing for them to see growing up.

Pat yourself on the back. High five yourself. Remind yourself of all the things you are getting RIGHT, my sweet friends.

Please, with a cherry on top, will you share a parenting win in the comments so I can cheer you on and give you a virtual fist bump? Sending all my love to you today and every single day. I appreciate you.

P.S. Did you know I extended the $10 off on the Connected Kid Collection? Go the link in my bio to check out the parenting products I created just for you to support you on this journey of creating my generational templates for our kids to inherit.

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Leave a 💗 in the comments if this resonates wit

Leave a 💗 in the comments if this resonates with you!

I don't know about you, but I've noticed with myself, that when I'm furious, underneath that rage, I'm usually actually quite scared. Scared that I'm messing up my kids, scared that I'll never break certain patterns, scared of feeling/being disconnected/abandoned by people I love, scared I'll never accomplish the goals I've defined for myself, scared that I'm not acceptable/lovable when I'm at my worst. And that fear, when not given a safe space, turns into rage. Kids are no different.

It is our job to be compassionate detectives with our kids (and ourselves!) to uncover the fear beneath the anger/dysregulation, etc.

When we view kids that way, we are able take their behavior way less personally and remind ourselves that we're on the same team as them. Then, we can take a beat, take a breath, and be the calm, kind leader we want to be for them. It's all about the lenses we're looking through when we view their behavior.

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So what do we do instead of timeouts? The first t

So what do we do instead of timeouts?

The first thing we have to do is get our own mindset right: in other words, find our own calm. Easier said than done, I know. 🙂 Finding our calm in the face of being triggered is the product of the inner work I talk about all the time here. It’s a muscle we strengthen every day by unlearning old narratives, taking radical care of our needs, going to therapy, etc.

Second, we must accept and witness our child’s feelings. We’re not accepting the behavior - we’re accepting the feelings behind the behavior and setting the necessary boundaries to keep ourselves/siblings/our child safe.

Third, tune in to what your child uniquely needs to process those tough feelings. Do they need to move their body (jump on a trampoline, shake around etc), have you close by, cry, talk, etc. This is the hardest part for me. I’m sometimes tempted to swoop in and “make it better” when I know that my kid really needs to go through their emotions, not around them with an easy fix.

Lastly, when the dust has settled, talk about what set your child off to begin with. What caused the meltdown/dysregulation/undesirable behavior? Remind them that they’re a good kid (and remind yourself that you’re a good parent) and that sometimes we make mistakes when our needs aren’t met (overtired, angry, lonely, overwhelmed, etc).

This teaches kids that you’re on their side, and how to tune in to their bodies/minds to give themselves (or ask for) what they need. It’s a skill that they’ll need for life and you’re instilling that into them by co-regulating instead of isolating.

One of my favorite quotes on my Connected Kid Cards is “I’m not here to punish you for your mistakes. I’m here to help you learn from them.” It’s so true.

Check out the entire Connected Kid Collection at GetCKC.com or go straight to the link in my bio where you can view all 3 products (cards, activities, reparenting workbook) that come with your purchase.

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