Raising Yourself 101

One of the most foundational pillars of consciously and responsively raising our children is learning how to walk our talk.

It’s about being humble enough to compassionately notice the gaps in our own lives where we’re asking our kids to do things we’ve yet to master ourselves. I always say that children are like our holy, little life coaches shining a light on our wounds that are still asking to be healed.

It is my sincerest hope that the content on this page offers you the tools, guidance, and support you deserve as you learn to raise yourself alongside your children.

How to Begin Reparenting Yourself

Discover the five steps I took to begin reparenting myself and connect with Younger Me.

The Missing Link Behind Our Yelling

Understand the triggers behind your rage and learn to rewire your brain (and heart) to consciously respond instead of harshly react.

When Partners Disagree

Learn how to navigate the choppy waters of conflicting parenting styles while staying true to your parenting values.

Confronting Our Mom Rage

Peel back the layers of your anger and begin to nurture the fear that lurks beneath it so you don’t pass it on to your kids.

Befriending Your Nervous System

Identify effective and doable strategies for soothing your nervous system so you can be the calm in your child’s storm.

Why Backtalk is so Triggering

Uncover why a child “talking back” can make us see red, and learn how to stop taking it personally so you can operate from a place of compassionate curiosity.

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Why do I talk about - and speak out against - puni $Why do I talk about - and speak out against - punishment on this page so much? Because inserting pain/shame/fear into the learning process for a child fractures the secure attachment that children so desperately need and crave (physiologically and emotionally) with their caregiver as they grow up. ALSO: as adults who may have been punished, emotionally or physically, as kids, we are still to this day, dealing with the aftermath of that way of parenting. It shows up in our friendships, in our self-confidence (or lack thereof), in our marriages, and of course, in the way we parent. Now, if you are reading this and you are absolutely determined to respond with “well, this is what’s wrong with kids today, they’re not punished ENOUGH!” - first, just save your time and energy because I get that comment daily and I will simply encourage you to go find some SCIENCE that proves that’s true (if you want to save some time, it doesn’t exist). When I make videos like this, I am creating this content for parents who want to find a different way to guide and discipline (teach) their child without punishing them. These messages are meant to remind and encourage you that punishment serves no purpose in parenting and when you get pushback from other family members or society that tells you “kids just need a good whoopin” 😑 then please come back here to remind yourself that kids need a SECURE ATTACHMENT, not physical or emotional violence, to learn and be emotionally resilient. Because this isn’t just about us anymore, it’s about what we are passing on to our children. If you’re ready to say goodbye to: ❌Losing your temper with your kids ❌ Punishing them because that’s how you were raised ❌Not feeling good enough as a parent ❌Power struggles between you and your children ❌Finding yourself repeating patterns you learned from your own parents ❌Not feeling like anyone is listening to you Then, I would invite you to check out the Connected Kid Collection at the link in my bio. You deserved to be supported on your cycle-breaking journey. #consciousparenting #innerchild #holisticparenting #gentleparenting #cyclebreakers$

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