Helping Parents Raise Themselves

How to begin reparenting yourself

Discover the six steps I took to begin reparenting myself and connect with Younger Me. Read More

what's behind our yelling

Understand the triggers behind your rage and learn to rewire your brain (and heart) to consciously respond instead of harshly react. Read More

when partners disagree

Learn how to navigate the choppy waters of conflicting parenting styles while staying true to your parenting values. Read More

confronting our mom rage

Peel back the layers of your anger and begin to nurture the fear that lurks beneath it so you don’t pass it on to your kids. Read More

befriending your nervous system

Identify effective and doable strategies for soothing your nervous system so you can be the calm in your child’s storm. Read More

why backtalk is so triggering

Uncover why a child “talking back” can make us see red, and learn how to stop taking it personally so you can operate from a place of compassionate curiosity. Read More

Raising Yourself is not about…

Blaming or shaming your parents

Being ungrateful about the healthy parts of your childhood

Thinking that you are “broken” and need to be fixed

Raising Yourself is actually about…

Giving yourself what you didn’t receive as a child

Liberating the (inner) child for the child/ren in front of you

Taking radical responsibility for your own behavior

Getting compassionately curious about your triggers

Anger Was My Gateway to Gentle Parenting

Sounds a little contradictory, right? I know. I used to think so, too. In the conscious parenting space, we are consistently invited to view our children’s behavior as a form of communication. We are gently reminded that our child’s unsavory behavior is often the result of an unmet need. Makes sense, right? I’ve always been on board with that…at least for my child.
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When I went to apply that mindset to myself, I couldn’t seem to embrace it…at least not at first.

It took me many years to really get that if I wanted to respond to my child’s anger (or whatever intense emotion they were experiencing) with compassion and curiosity, then I needed to learn to respond to my OWN anger in the same way first.

I had to untangle the shame I’d attached to my anger for so many years. I had to give my rage a safe place to exhale. I don’t know that I ever would have done that without having children who were like holy little mirrors that revealed to me the wounds I had yet to heal.

It starts with you

One of the most powerful parenting epiphanies that I’ve downloaded into my heart and mind over the years has been the humbling realization that it is never my job to control my child’s emotions; rather, it IS my job to control and regulate my own emotions. I would argue that learning to de-escalate our intense emotions alongside our child’s escalating feelings is one of the most important parenting skills we can learn. Oof. Easier said than done, right?

Yet, this is where the magic happens. Aligning our own behavior to the behavior we ask of our children is truly the most effective and compassionate way to guide the next generation. After all, kids aren’t willing to learn what we aren’t willing to model.

So, let’s roll up our sleeves together, yank out the weeds that are keeping us stuck in the very parenting patterns we swore we wouldn’t pass on, and create an empowering generational blueprint for our children to inherit.

You deserve to be supported on this journey. Discover the tools and resources I’ve created to help you plant the seeds that will one day grow a thriving garden. Are you ready to grow a new way of parenting?

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