Helping Parents Raise Themselves
Raising Yourself is not about…
Blaming or shaming your parents
Being ungrateful about the healthy parts of your childhood
Thinking that you are “broken” and need to be fixed
Raising Yourself is actually about…
Giving yourself what you didn’t receive as a child
Liberating the (inner) child for the child/ren in front of you
Taking radical responsibility for your own behavior
Getting compassionately curious about your triggers
Anger Was My Gateway to Gentle Parenting
When I went to apply that mindset to myself, I couldn’t seem to embrace it…at least not at first.
It took me many years to really get that if I wanted to respond to my child’s anger (or whatever intense emotion they were experiencing) with compassion and curiosity, then I needed to learn to respond to my OWN anger in the same way first.
I had to untangle the shame I’d attached to my anger for so many years. I had to give my rage a safe place to exhale. I don’t know that I ever would have done that without having children who were like holy little mirrors that revealed to me the wounds I had yet to heal.
It starts with you
One of the most powerful parenting epiphanies that I’ve downloaded into my heart and mind over the years has been the humbling realization that it is never my job to control my child’s emotions; rather, it IS my job to control and regulate my own emotions. I would argue that learning to de-escalate our intense emotions alongside our child’s escalating feelings is one of the most important parenting skills we can learn. Oof. Easier said than done, right?
Yet, this is where the magic happens. Aligning our own behavior to the behavior we ask of our children is truly the most effective and compassionate way to guide the next generation. After all, kids aren’t willing to learn what we aren’t willing to model.
So, let’s roll up our sleeves together, yank out the weeds that are keeping us stuck in the very parenting patterns we swore we wouldn’t pass on, and create an empowering generational blueprint for our children to inherit.
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